What's the Speed Limit on this Thing?

The Communist is one of those guys who seem to be desired of by a large number of girls, but doesn't desire a large number of girls. (Hope you understood that one.) One of those numerous girls that have attempted to get closer to him actually has. She's actually had the opportunity to put her arm around his (shock and amazement,) and The Communist is teetering between rather he wants anything to actually happen with said girl.

It's gotten to the point where both The Communist and I just wish that she'd find another guy so that The Communist would just be able to go on his way looking for another girl that might actually catch his attention. So imagine my excitement when he told me that three nights ago a guy kissed her. However, she has apparently since told this guy that it wasn't going to work out between them . . . which thus doesn't help anything with The Communist.

After talking a little more with The Communist we got onto the topic of how quickly some people are able to attempt a kiss even during the first date whereas others might have been with the person for nearly a month and still nothing has happened in the kissing arena (I'll let you guess who the latter might be.)

The kissing opportunity has so many variables involved in it that there really is no way to determine when the right time to kiss is. However probably the biggest influence is just the sheer assertiveness of the two characters in play. If both are a little less forward then the page never gets turned and they are holding each other, enjoying one another's company till finally the girl gets frustrated and leaves the guy because he moves too slow and the guy gets annoyed because the girl never seems like she's all that interested.

I've Known Others to do Worse

Ok, it really isn't an issue. And yet for some reason it keeps a hold of my attention, so I'll simply use this as a venting station and maybe it will clear up my view of the situation. I've been out of high school for a little while now and have gone through a lot of changes since that time. Hail Marry wasn't even a graduate from high school a year ago. In the next couple of years she'll have completely different experiences than I did after graduation. She'll have to make different changes and have to grow up into a different person than I did.

If any of my friends where to be dating a girl that was still in high school they would be the recieving end of many jokes and jeers. Maybe even some question as to the friends sanity might come into the whole process. So there arises the question; does a year in college actually make that much of a difference in a person that I'm doing so much better than the proverbial robbing of the cradle?

As I think more about it, she's probably actually about as mature as I am . . . it says a lot about her and maybe more about me, but whatever :D

Kissed by a Rose

I have friends in all different stages of relationships and each one of those friends hold a different interpretation as to what their actions may mean to the opposite sex. One way or another though our actions hold some meaning to the recipient and possibly one of the most dramatic actions is kissing.

What exactly is it that influences our meaning to a kiss? Does our age when we receive our first kiss change the value of all the other kisses to come? Or maybe the person whom it is with? Does the actions of others with their kissing have a measurable influence upon our own meaning to the matter?

Considering that I didn't even have a "significant other" all throughout high school brings out the obvious that I didn't have my first kiss till I was a little older than most tend to be. Since that first kiss I have not been in active pursuit of another girl to kiss and thus I haven't become familiar with a large number of lips unlike my friend CBS. CBS started kissing in high school. He worked slowly at first but now that he is in college it has become a common practice for us to try and call him in the middle of "something".

I could not think of another person who holds kissing in such high contrast to myself as CBS does, but what exactly are those differences? What exactly is kissing beyond an action? Fun? An acceptance of commitment? Something to pass the time? The next step after cuddling?

With a Shotgun and a Smile

It's usually a good sign when she brings you home to meet the parents.

Navy Blue Philosophy

Nobody really understands the complete science as to why the small blood vessels in our face dilate, no matter where the science begins and the human ends, it still makes an embarrassing situation seem that much more embarrassing. Blushing sucks.

The other night after a group date Hail Marry, Taz, and I went to borrow a movie from Old Roommate (I know, real original name.) We sat and chatted for a little while about this and that when Old Roommate quietly raised his hand and waited to be called on (which I probably never should have done in the first place.) He looked at Hail Marry and I while asking "Have you two hooked up?" Hail Marry quickly turned bright pink, and I slowly followed after. He came to realize that no Determining of The Relationship had occurred (DTR.) Some minor laughing and confusion came along and then the subject was quickly changed as the awkwardness lost it's entertainment value.

Around high school (some sooner, some later,) we all start to get that urge to have somebody to be with, someone to celebrate with after a victory or to comfort after a defeat. From the time that it begins till the time it is finally achieved we are thinking about it in one way or another (generally speaking of coarse.)

Problems arise from the fact that we learn from our experience. If we are currently looking for that someone to just BE with then it means that past attempts have failed. This failure hurts, don't deny it. So we move a little more cautious the next attempt and maybe we get a little further, or maybe we fall even harder. After a couple years of crashing and burning people come to a cross roads. A: They stop putting REAL effort into the pursuit and just "go with the flow." or B: They come to realize that nothing will kill them and they become a little crazy.

I like to think that I haven't reached that cross road yet, and instead have taken quite nicely to falling on my face time and time again. However, I am getting more and more cautious as I go along, and yet I'm also learning from my free falls with out a parachute. If you go out expecting to hit the ground there's no surprise and you become willing to risk a little more. This works out great-until you see something that you actually want to reach for. Then the fall looks a little more painful and you're a little more cautious about when to leap out of the plane and how much force you need to push off with in order to reach the goal. Not getting far enough is safer than just shooting right over the mountain because there's still the chance that the mountain still didn't see you coming and you can go for another attempt. It's true, faith can move a mountain, especially when you're over zealous and the mountain runs away.

Experience is a necessary evil that can teach us great things if we're actually willing to learn and apply it.

Other Sources Say

I like to think that I'm not so dense in the world of dating, and maybe at some point I'll throw in my own two cents on the subject, however I'm enjoying all the different views and responses that you are sharing with me. So, I've decided to bring up some other scenarios to be analized. (These being from the experiences of other friends, they could use the help.)

My roommate Bass has noticed our friend McDonal and for a while thought that she might be interested in him. A couple of weeks ago she asked him out . . . on a blind date with one of her friends. What's the possability that she actually could be interested in him? (I think that all the girls set each other up on a blind date, just to keep the date interesting.)

Serving 4 to Zero.

Maybe I can give a little more information about my relationship with Hail Marry. We are actually going on our fourth date this weekend. Yes, our FOURTH. (Mind you that the first two where a couple of months ago.)

I go over to her apartment often and we can talk for hours (we have talked for hours.) I invite her over to watch movies and what ever else I might come up with. Now how do I get the ball over to her court?