Point of Least Interest (PLI): This theory was introduced to me a while back by my caring sister. I wasn't dating at the time, and neither was she, so I really can't remember why she taught me about it besides the fact that she had just learned about it herself. It goes like this: In a relationship there is one person that is less interested in the other, they control the relationship they have the PLI. No matter what, there is always one person that holds less interest than the other. There may be a finite variance between the two, but PLI is there.
I'm always learning a little more and understanding more, but I've always had a theme, if I was involved in a relationship the girl held the PLI. I don't know why this was; maybe I enjoyed having to work a little harder and pay attention a little more. I'm not saying that I haven't had oportunities to be in a relationship that was otherwise, but those relationships where I held the PLI just never seemed attractive to me (not the girls, just the relationship itself.) That is till now.
Getting used to the feeling of being the one setting the pace isn't coming easily, especially because my pace is quite often slower than a tortoise. As we spend time together I'm coming to understand little by little as to why I apreciate NOT holding the PLI. I enjoy doing things, movies, games, hanging out, eating, etc; she enjoys doing things as well, but I'm not so sure what they are because she's so eager to do what it is that I want to do. (Hopefully I did better at making decisions when I didn't hold PLI) If things don't work out between us for one reason or another it's pretty clear that I'll be the one to end it, I've always enjoyed mutual brake-ups . . . who knows, it might happen.
Things are still new and developing, so who knows, maybe things will change quickly and I'll be back in my favorite spot before I know it.
