Don't Say It Out Loud
Granola caught up with me today and started asking about my intentions with Hail Marry. Apparently Granola had a conversation with a little bird and decided to confirm.
Well, the cat's out of the bag, I'm now pursuing Hail Marry. (Seriously, it when somebody asks you a yes or no question it comes to an all or nothing issue.) So do I pull the "Racquet tactic" and just be upfront with her, or I can keep testing the waters till she either decides to pull me in or I find it to be not the right temperature for my taste and walk away grateful that we can still be friends?
posted by Jimmy @ 11:50 AM
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4 Comments:
a word from someone who has experienced showing interest only to regret it subsequently. women are facinating creatures wrapped in perplexing enigmas. as soon as interest is shown, interest is lost. my advice is this; show zero interest. however, make sure some form of flirtatious activity goes on. you dont want to lose her intrigue on what youre intentions are. as soon as you pull this "racquet tactic" be sure to know that she wont even sneeze your way.
oh, and thanks for the comments
Indeed, I pulled the "racquet" tactic with the last guy...
Jaded, a personal opinion statement follows:
I am coming to believe that the ball ought not to be left in the womans court.
As with my eagerness to express my interest to the last guy, each time in my life that the pursuing has been left up to me, the relationship has failed more quickly and painfully than when I have been pursued.
Perhaps because I'd invested more work, and more of my heart.
I think the idea is not to leave the ball in either court for too long.
Well I want to leave my two cents....if there is an interest, ask her out. My experience, which happens to be a few more years than most, is that the longer you wait, the harder it becomes. I hate to even admit this because it pains my heart because I have many male friends whom I love dearly, but once married friendship shift and change especially with members of the opposite sex. It is time that we all get down to the business of finding the one in with whom we can spend the rest of eternity. "Hanging out" is not going to accomplish that goal, you actually have to date the individual to find out if there is compatibility there.
We are all adults to boot, friendships can survive a broken relationship if both parties are willing to work on it.
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